How many times has that come out of a child’s mouth… heck even as an adult I know Ive said it many times.
Well in the years hubs and I have known each other – this has become a much too common statement… for us – because you know what life isn’t fair at times. At times it does suck. At times we must remind ourselves that we are strong and given only what we can handle – what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger… right?!
At times I seriously do not know… what I do know is yes at times “its just not fair”…
Hubs and I have dealt with alot in these years together , its certainly been trying – very trying – at times on our marriage, however it has made us stronger. In the 12 yrs we’ve been together Im really not sure we’ve had a year without illness or death in either sides of our family. Seriously enough already. Of course I do realize some people deal with illness and death everyday, within their own family, some children as well – which is why I use the statement “its not fair” lightly…
Lets face it everyone is living their own story, we never know what the next page will bring or the ups and downs we may face. What I do know – now more than ever is that we CAN do this together – we CAN face all of these heart breaking obstacles and come out – a little bent, but not broken (thanks Pink!).
This past weekend we received heart breaking news about a close family member… someone who has had their share of health related issues for many years and who was finally given a true 2nd chance at life… my heart breaks for this person and for our family. I pray they are able to be strong… for two very important reasons. I pray that we are strong.
Once again in these 12 years we’ve been together its another reminder of just how short life is… about how important it is to live and love life including those around you. Those very important people, family and friends in our life who we love so dearly. That sometimes when it feels like the end, really its just the beginning of a whole new chapter. Do not live with regrets, do not wonder why. Live and love. Surround yourself with those who respect and love you. Plan for the future, while also living today.
Most importantly… TAKE PICTURES!
TAKE A LOT OF PICTURES… This truly is one regret I have of us not having hubby’s mom, my mother in law here with us now. I WISH I took more pictures – I wish I pushed for just a few smiles, I wish I didn’t say… later. Because we didn’t get a ‘later’ with her… Hubs moved back in with her and lived with her for the 4+ yrs before she passed, I feel so very lucky that I was also able to live there with her to truly get to know her. I know how much we enjoyed it, I know how much she enjoyed it, I have the memories… and they are just that memories. Although I was so comfortable with her and I loved taking photos… I didnt get ones I truly wish we had… after all we had our wedding coming up… she was SO excited to hear her son had “finally” popped the question – he was so excited showing her the ring before our trip where we got engaged… Then she got sick again, she never let on just how sick she was, hubs even asked her about moving up the wedding, she wouldn’t have it… I’ll never forget getting the call… 2 months before our wedding. Those photos I had on my list of ones I wanted – of hubby with her, of me with her, of us WITH her… they never happened and that is one thing I will never be able to truly be ok with.
So to all my family and friends – next time I suggest a group shot … suck it up and let me take it 😉 To all of you this past weekend… thanks for putting up with the 30 min impromptu photo shoot – thanks to mom for capturing the shots she did for me so I could be in them… And our friends who had to leave early… we still need our group shot! 😉
Some photos from last weekend… 😉