I read a quote the other day that completely resonated with me…
“In order to even begin to understand what’s going on in the world right now. You have to be open to the idea of unlearning almost everything you were taught.”
As I have moved through the stages of infertility to baby stages and now into their teen years this resonates now more than ever. Even when the kids were babies, the “norm” was Johnson & Johnson baby everything… which we did use, until I learned the ingredients in their products and ditched all of them, yup even full bottles.
There is a lot going on in the world where truths are being revealed, truthfully, my children have been my biggest teachers.
A few years ago my daughter received a birthday card and gift card in the mail from someone (adult) who chooses to not have a relationship with her, I suggested to my daughter that she call and thank the person, her response to me was “so this person doesn’t have to call or see me but I am the one who has to call them!?”. This literally stopped me in my tracks. I turned and looked at my daughter and said “no, no you do not have to”. She instead mailed a thank you card. Most recently in 2020, from the same person our daughter received a “Happy Belated Birthday” card in the mail, took her by surprise that it was a “belated”, however whatever that was this person’s choice. We moved on. For our son’s birthday, almost exactly 6 months later, he was sent a “Happy Birthday” card with a gift card in it in the mail… of course this inconsistency had our both children puzzled and emotionally scarred our daughter. A good life lesson, however, sometimes even adults can make decisions that even a child cannot understand.
Children, lets face it, in the big picture of the world, are the one’s who loose. They literally are at the mercy of the adults, simply because they are children.
Unlearn to re-learn now more than ever is so key, truthfully crucial to all of our mental health development.
The other night when discussing bedtime with the kids, when they reminded me they had a PD day on Tuesday!? Um what? Haha this I have to say is a first to have a PD day not on a Monday or Friday, however much like 2020 taught us, nothing is as it seems, the norm is no longer, we now create our new norm! We talked about bedtime, we have a routine with them, yes even as teens, at bedtime (whether its ours or theirs), we do our oil routine on their feet… Balance, Cedarwood, Vetiver, Frankincense and the Immune Roller sometimes on their neck, back, feet and whatever other oils I (or they, truthfully) feel drawn to using for them. My daughter reminded me, that even though she doesn’t have school and may watch a movie before bed, she knows how much sleep she needs and adjusts her bed time to that – whether at school or home!
A good handful of years ago, I began listening to Dr Shefali. She teaches about Awakened Parenting and Conscious Parenting. Genius honestly because it completely began to shift parenting within our household.
To unlearn what we knew and relearn what we wanted to create within our own home. A quote which has been on my About Pam page for many years, when our children were approx 3 and 4.
“While we try to teach our children all about life.
Our children teach us what life is all about.”
I used to despise hearing “why” sometimes over and over again… what I’ve realized is, we all must return to how we learned as children, to question everything, to ask why, to wonder, to dream…
Truthfully the only thing within our “control” is ourselves. Not our spouse, not our children, not our family or friends. The more we raise our own vibration in a positive way, facing any darkness or shadows that are in our life (or past), the better we can rise above every single day!