Boundaries and Returning to My Inner World

I enjoyed a beautiful conversation with my mental health coach, Angela Kontgen. “Meditation Coach” is what came to mind as I began writing, however a big part of our conversation was not seeing it “just as a meditation” and rather as a crucial part of my daily routine.

There is SO much going on in the world right now. It’s easier to focus on peace and happiness within the walls of our home, as we choose to not watch the news. Going out in the world, it’s unfortunately clear of what is happening. Especially seeing so many businesses closed. As someone who plays a big part in operating a business, this makes me feel so sad. I am grateful we have been working the entire time. We live and work in a small town, honestly the best living, especially with kids!

Yesterday I took my husband to his follow up appointment with the surgeon who rebuilt his ankle. He was given clearance to use a cane and to find footware that will fit his healing foot. Our local shoe store has been closed, by government restrictions. As we were driving we see Walmart is open, of course right. Well, give the benefit of the doubt, they do sell food 🙄 . Ok, let’s go check it out and see if the shoe section is open…

Not only is the shoe section open… the ENTIRE store was open. You could buy whatever you want. Including things that are sold in small local businesses, that are currently shut down due to the “risk” for people’s health. Small businesses that have no where near as many people in them that Walmart and Costco do. This makes sense how? Home Hardware and Canadian Tire have to do curb side pick up. But drive to a bigger town and you can walk in, look at and buy all of the same things… shoes, clothes, fishing stuff, hunting, camping, kids toys, bedding, towels, plumbing stuff at Walmart.

But the government “cares about us”. They are only doing this for “our safety”. People are literally loosing their livelihoods as big corporations like Walmart and Amazon are raking in the profits (its documented about Amazon). Needless to say we were not in their long. I felt completely confused, angry, and quite bitter towards the government.

Later the same day, we learn about elementary’s delay back to school. You know, kind of like back in March when we were told 2 weeks, and then March break ended 6 months later. I do agree with Ford who mentioned about how kids have runny noses and coughs… yup every single winter they do! Crazy right. Our kids lives have been turned upside down, their mental health greatly affected (when I say “our” I mean parents as a collective), this isn’t better for them.

After work I remembered about my scheduled call with my coach Angela at 530pm. I am so grateful for having reached out to her earlier in the week. She hosted our monthly symphonies for the mind’s inspiration on Sunday and encouraged anyone who was feeling challenged to reach out.

I am honestly a very conscious person when it comes to health and wellbeing. Yes, there was a time I was not. There was a time I was actually ignorant towards my health. My life has completely changed in the last 6 years that I am SO proud of. It began with truly taking charge of MY health and following MY inner direction. I understand MY health, my kids health, is my responsibility, no one else’s and every single person, our health is not one size fits all. Its unique. A pill for this, can suddenly mean you now “need” a pill for that. To continue doing what IS working and has been for the last 6+ years 😉!

Angela reminded me of this last night. The importance of my daily introspection. The importance of not just seeing it as “meditating” but as balancing my inner world. Which IS crucial to living in peace. The importance of turning off the outside world as much as possible. For our mental and physical health.

She also reminded me of the boundaries needed with my phone in the bedroom. Being in a business that provides essential service, my phone is typically not been far from me. In the past few years I have been allowing myself to embrace better boundaries. It’s so easy to get caught up in instant gratification. However there is lots of times I am personally busy, groceries, kids, bathroom. It’s not logistically possible to answer. So if that’s ok, there isn’t a dire need to need my phone beside me at night. I’ve been reluctant in the past, honestly because “what if?!”. We have had a lot of “stuff” happen, lost loved ones and this has held tight to me receiving those phone calls. Especially when a couple were tragic accidents. When Angela said get the phone out of your room, I instantly thought no, I wont hear it and the more Angela and I talked about the importance of this, I remembered the new layout of our master bedroom. Which includes a dressing room… the perfect place! It’s the perfect compromise as it’s out of our room, but still near by.

After dinner, before doing our kids oils I took some time for me, I journaled and meditated. I listened to our monthly Symphonies of the Mind‘s meditation, Awake (how appropriate!). After so many inconsistent sleepless nights, I slept awesome! It also helped that I remembered to start our diffuser as well and enjoyed the newest blend AirX (its SO good!!!). I fell asleep much easier too! I woke shortly after midnight and then slept solid until just minutes before my alarm went off at 530am! 🙌

My inner world is my foundation, every single day! Morning and night and sometimes even at lunch. 2020 brought upon us a unique opportunity for growth. 2021 is where it all comes to life 🙌💕💫


Published by The Mystic Healing Artist & Intuitive - Pamela Zmija

Pam is a nature and lifestyle photographer, biz woman, number cruncher, oil lover, healer and most important, a mom and wife. She is passionate about inspiring and empowering mom’s and their families to become the true architect of their life to learn real, simple and affordable ways of positive change in their lifestyle to be healthier and happier… naturally!  Creative and conscious about the value of a dollar, Pam is driven by feeling good!   #lifestylephotographer #doTERRA #EssentialOils #YourLifeAsArtEssentials  #PCOS #MentalHealth #ADHD #ouroilylife #thehealingartist #yourlifeasart #naturephotographer

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