Abuse Disguised As Caring

Have you ever been in an abusive relationship before?
Sadly, I have.
In my high school years, I was in a relationship with someone who was emotionally and verbally abusive to me.
Sadly, not just this person, his family and friends as well.

Abuse is abuse and affects someone to their core. I, unfortunately know this.

It’s very common with an abuser for them to isolate you from your family and/or friends and control as much of your life as they can. Ever read the definition of a narcissist? It’s true.

I strongly believe we are currently being “abused” by our government.

The government has mass ads out in print, radio, tv, signs, online telling people they must stay away from others, cover our faces (no more smiling faces), only go outside if essential, it’s ok to work but not to be around anyone outside of your household. Small businesses have to close, big box stores allowed to be open, people urged to buy online and large corporations sales soar. Insinuating that it’s dangerous to be near our loved ones. That being around them could get them sick and potentially kill them. Do we want to be responsible for someone getting sick and dying?

In the summer we were “allowed” to be around more people, the government gave us “permission” to invite people into our own homes. Easter was taken away, it was too scary to be around anyone outside of your household. Mass amounts of fear, numbers projected that never even came close.
In the fall it became too dangerous again to gather with family, or anyone to celebrate Thanksgiving.

The government is telling us we are not allowed to have anyone in our homes except the people who live there. Last time I checked, we paid for (paying for) our own home. No one else, especially not even the government.

Now, as we are literally days away from Christmas and the numbers of actual sick people are not sky rocketing out of control, we are locked down effective Christmas Eve, Thursday. Until that time however it’s completely ok to go to work, be around my co-workers and my family until that time that it then becomes “not allowed”.

Excuse me?! I am not allowed to be with anyone outside of my household for any personal reasons (because it’s ok to work when you are an essential worker). I am “not allowed” to have anyone outside of my household in my house.
“I’m not allowed”… by who?!
The Government.
Who is paid for by us, the working people. Are telling me I can not have anyone else in my home, literally a day before Christmas and over the entire holidays into the new year.

The irony… working in an essential business that I am thankful for, we are allowed to be with our co-workers (and family because we do work with multiple family members) but as soon as the holidays start, nope. We are “not allowed” to be around them?! Really, because that makes complete sense! Being in our small town, there are multiple family based businesses like us who would technically be in a very similar situation.

It was like a flash back, to a very intense time in my life when I thought this person actually loved and cared for me. I lost a significant part of myself and my life, that has taken me years to get back. All because I tried to justify how he was talking to me and treating me, that it was ok, that he loved me. It was not. At all.

To an abuser it’s all about control, manipulation and the fact that the abuser is a weak, inept person who is avoiding their true root of their abusive treatment.

How is what the government is doing, any better than what an abuser does?

If the government cared about it’s people, first off, they wouldn’t allow products that are harmful to our health to be knowingly sold in a variety of food, drink, beauty, cleaning products. They would promote people to get physical activity, to be outdoors in the sunshine, eat healthy foods, drink water, move their body, reinforce the importance of mental health, vitamins and minerals. The government would understand the importance of personal connection, in real life vs isolation and connecting online. Especially for our children and seniors.

I’m very much a facts person, straight to the facts. If the government really did care about us, they would be promoting common sense over the holidays. To enjoy time with your loved ones who are within your bubble, and who you have most likely spent the entire year with!  To be encouraging safety, based on real numbers and facts.

Why does this upset me so much?
I’ve been in an abusive relationship.
This “control” is how it felt.
Its NOT how it’s supposed to be at all.
Caring is not control.

Caring is building someone up, being positive, real factual education, affordable healthy food and water, holistic natural health care that is recognizable to our bodies. Caring is allowing someone their personal freedom.

Caring isn’t used as a front for abuse.

Canada, based on today’s numbers. Has an approximate population of 37.59 million. Today there is 78,772 active Cases in Canada. Yes that number seems high, but in truth, it’s not. That is 0.00209% of our population of our country.

In Ontario, the current approximate population  is 14.57 million. There is currently 26,867 active cases at 0.001843% of our population of the province.

In Wellington Dufferin Guelph the approximate population is 272,000. There is 266 active cases in the 3 regions. That is 0.0009779% of the population.

In Grey Bruce the approximate population from 2016 was 93,830. There is currently 31 active cases. That is 0.000330 % of the population.

Based on posted world numbers today the percentage of people with active cases in the world is 0.0042%.

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If there is one thing that I learned and gained strength from after leaving an abuser (mentally, emotionally, verbally and cheated multiple times) it’s that the best and only way to win is to stand up and take ownership of me and my life.

These numbers do NOT make sense. People are being censored all over “social” media when what they say questions the narrative, now this. It was bad enough being “threatened” with a “lock down” on boxing day, now on Christmas Eve. Apparently no one working in government has a caring bone in their body, that can also do simple math. Lord help us as these people are supposed to be our “leaders”.

Speaking from experience, I had many people tell me I looked healthy prior to me loosing 60lbs. Looks mean nothing, I was not healthy, but I also thought I was. Looking back hindsight really is 20/20 and I think of where I was then, mentally and physically (listening to the medical community – just take these pills and you will be “fine”, in the “normal range” bullshit – “just listen to us”) to where I am now and it’s a world a part, honestly.

Please don’t just read these numbers above and believe them. No, do the digging and research yourself. Everything I have read and found in 2020 that has helped strengthen me even more, was cross referenced. Never ever take 1 persons opinion as truth, especially if it doesn’t feel right within your heart and soul. That also applies to our government and news sources, even these tests.

Is it normal to be shamed into wanting to see your loved ones but having mass amounts of fear injected into you for wanting them in your life? NO!

Or is it more normal that we are now being shamed of that AND ads are also being played out that if seniors begin dying after the (fast tracked) vaxx that it’s ok because it’s normal for seniors to die?!

Don’t even get me started on the mental health effects this entire year has had on people and the rising addition, suicide and overdose rates! Or this fast tracked vaxx that our family will not be taking.

One more thing… Look up “Songbird” movie trailer… that coincidentally was released in 2020. “Immune to the COVID-23 virus, a courier races against time to save the woman he loves from a quarantine camp.” Read that sentence again. Then realize this movie was released in 2020, a bigger question WHEN was it created, I highly doubt at the height of a “pandemic” to be released already when much of Hollywood was shut down for months!? Hmmmm…

A wolf in sheeps clothing… Beware!

Published by Your Life As Art Essentials - Pamela Zmija

My name is Pam, I am a nature and lifestyle photographer, biz woman, number cruncher, oil lover, healer and most important, a mom and wife. I inspire and educate mom’s and their families to become the true architect of their life to learn real, simple and affordable ways of positive change in their lifestyle to be healthier and happier… naturally by being empowered and educated in their own homes! I am creative and conscious about the value of a dollar and am driven by goals and dreams! #oilyphotographer #doTERRA #EssentialOils #YourLifeAsArtEssentials #PCOS #MentalHealth #ADHD #ouroilylife

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