The Outside Influence

Who are we to judge one another, when we ourselves are not pure.

Every single one of us has sinned in their life, but we are all very different. I have made my mistakes, which I have learned from. We all can choose to learn vs continue inflicting pain on others.

We all also have our own life path, that leads us to where we need to be, at that point in our life.

My husband and I had a great talk last night. After celebrating his birthday. We chatted about how much we have overcome to get to where we currently are. Not rehashing or reliving but gratitude for the journey and pure contentment, gratitude and love for where we have been and continue to go! How the past year for us personally, professionally has been probably our happiest!

We are human. Life can be real and something takes me off guard.

Last week I was triggered, big time, by a man who spoke to me with the attitude that I am a woman in a “man’s business” and need to just be quiet and do what he says. Having been in an emotionally and verbally traumatic prior relationship, this can make me completely tense up.

Not even a week later, another similar experience. Coincidentally, both of these “men”, which I say loosely because being disrespectful doesn’t make you a man, were who I would class as in the baby boomer era…

What I have experienced in my many years of “working in a man’s business” is being confident in what I do know, being open to continuously learning – like all of us should be!, not being afraid to ASK! I am grateful for those I work with, within our business, externally through suppliers and customers. 99% are truly amazing!!!

But it’s so easy to judge, to perhaps relive the conversation in your head. Which keeps the focus on that person and/or issue that’s feeling like a challenge. To perhaps think its “easier” to bow down or step back.

When we know better we do better. We can begin to put up stronger boundaries, personally and in business.

Rather than dwelling on “what” happened… More importantly, HOW can I grow from here.

A few years ago we had a very rude customer come in, we had worked for him a few times and he was always short and rude to the women in our office. Yet remarkably polite to the men. One day, as he was pretty much harassing a co-worker I stepped in and asked him to leave. I also let him know we wouldn’t ever be doing work for him again and asked him to take his business elsewhere. This was pivotal in my leadership skills, in truly standing firm to this older man and his controversial beliefs that women are far less superior than man.

There are times when you need to put up boundaries, healthy limits, which can also be within as well.

When we allow outside influences in, we are saying someone else’s opinion matters more. We thrive when our energy is balanced, be aware of what “outside influences” we allow into our life.

Social media is a great example.

Can you really believe all of what you see? Does it feel genuine? Are you living in your most authentic way?

Allow yourself permission to possibilities.

Last week when that happened, it honestly completely depleted my energy. On a couple levels.

An old part of me would have wanted to stay in bed, reliving the conversation, worrying of the outcome, pissed off over words. Also lighting a spark in me. Of the pure importance of always being open to learning. It may be small one day, it may be unbelievable another.

Calm the outside influence by going within. Turning off distractions. Tonight the tv didn’t even come on, so no shows or music! Incredible conversation. When we know better, we do better. Everyone can!

Being a woman who greatly appreciates being honest, trust, authenticity, ethical values. That is what I must Align with. Holding people accountable. To their word. Male or female. Understanding that my own disappointment, anger, hurt from the words or actions of another person, is beyond my control. What is within my control is allowing myself to move forward. I may not receive an apology or the desired results, however that too is out of my control.

Being 100% content, happy and satisfied with MY life, WHO I am and realizing the outside influences really do not matter. My strength and love does!

Always learning…

This is a time that more women especially, need to wake up, find their voices and be strong. The world is shifting and we can be a part of an integral energy shift, one that I know is going to change many lives.

Without the outside influences… 💕