It’s ok to admit that we aren’t perfect or that we made a mistake… as adults it can feel harder to admit that but to our kids… its HUGE !
Huge to hear that yes Mommy made a mistake or had a tough moment during the day… but both are fixable and its OK!
I arrived home the other night and the first thing my son said to me when he looked at me was “What’s wrong?!” – Kids are SO smart!
Well as it turns out his intuition was bang on… his mama had not one but a few frustrating moments and rather than saying nothing or don’t worry, whatever else or pushing the kids away, I said to both the kids “you know what I’m feeling very frustrated right now because…” I of course kept it kid appropriate (it was anyway) and explained in terms they would understand.
It was all fixable, but very frustrating for me! Especially when time is precious and all frustrations involved significant time on my part.
So I was honest with the kids. Yup feeling super frustrated and you know what? I instantly felt better AND it didn’t affect the kids in any negative way. Actually in all honestly I feel it had a positive effect on them… even mommy makes mistakes and that’s ok!
I went to bed after writing in my journal, feeling grateful for everyone in my life and what I’ve been blessed with and that tomorrow would be a new day…
It totally was!
I was up at the crack of dawn… worrying! Worrying about the previous day frustrations and how things would work out. I could feel myself getting tense and angry. I knew it wasn’t going to help me so I began to turn it around… positive talk that everything was going to work out… and you know what?! It totally did!!!
I got to work feeling relief of getting through that process but still slightly frustrated but honestly more optimistic with what I knew I had to fix… turns out we were able to fix it much simpler than originally thought! Tied up some other loose ends, you know the ones that are small but get put on the to-do list and literally begin to feel like a great big weight themselves… yup cleared off a bunch of those and figured out a computer technical issue!
All in all a MUCH better day, that I chose that I was going to have and did!!!
It made me feel SO good to tell the kids how much better my day was!!! Especially when they saw and could feel (my energy) yesterday. Do I tell my kids everything that pisses me off?! Hell no! There are clearly kid appropriate topics and ways to talk to them and share that I was frustrated. My biggest reason for embracing this with them the other night is because I remember being a kid/teen and being so hard on myself, my kiddos are much like their mama. If I can help my kids embrace the fact that every day, any situation or relationship will have its ups and downs, good times and challenges, in a kid friendly way, you bet your booty I’m going to do that!
Everyone makes mistakes, has frustrating moments… but you know what I’ve learned. The more you try to control that outcome, control the way you think things should happen… the least control you have. When you are simply open and grateful for whatever life throws at you, thinking of those frustrating moments as a learning experience… wow incredible!
Think large. Teach kids to rise above small minded talk. You know the kind, that others gossip about thinking they know you or the situation or sometimes worse, your own self talk! Teach kids they have a voice, opinion and they are welcome, as the next generation to experience and learn!
I am so thankful for our growth experience this week. I am so thankful for our two littles I get to help raise in this world! 🙌💖🙏🦋