Patient Parenting, a concept I once thought was crazy. How on earth can you be patient every moment, especially having children.
I now firmly believe our children come to us to help us grow into the people we are meant to be. My children have created a patient, compassionate and calm mom. A mom who once was reactive, broken, hurting and not confident.
I was given children who test me every single day – which I honestly love. Their beautiful personalities shine bright and when for whatever reason they get thrown off and their confidence takes a nose dive. Our children are a true reflection of us, how we live is how they learn to live. When our children see us being hard on ourselves – they become more critical of themselves. Ive noticed as Ive been on my personal development journey for the past 4+ years my children are also becoming more resilient.
I now see how we truly do all support each other’s mental health.
Yesterday my son, who plays defence, scored a goal in their hockey game! It was an incredible shot! His true talent was shining bright. Today during their game the puck ricocheted off his stick and into our net. Everything great that had happened before then, were gone and I watched from the stands as I could see my son sinking. How did I know? Because it was once me, its still something I continually work on to build myself up.
What I did notice though, was our parenting approach that we now take with our kids. Where before he would have just cut out the entire world and sank down further, he was open to talking, where he would have just said “Im fine” he now converses with us on what happened and strategies to get through some of those parts of the game that suck in the moment and can bring you down.
I am proud of him and I am proud of us. I am thankful and grateful for the life lesson’s we’ve had as they have truly given us experience to learn and grow into our very best selves!