I picked the kids up from school today and literally within minutes of arriving home my little lady was a big ball of emotions. We walked through the door, the kids were doing what they had to on their chore list, Carson had begun unloading the dishwasher and Maddy melted.
While driving home I was thinking in my head of my to-do list and everything I was going to check off of it when we got home!
Boy were my plans changed. My daughter needed me in a way that just physically being here couldn’t provide. Every little thing suddenly was big, scary, disappointing and sad. I spent the next hour talking with my girl, supporting her and then getting a start on her speech… which began with I don’t know what to write about, I can’t do it, I can’t talk in front of people. She was just mentally exhausted and completely over thinking everything. So she made her favourite snack and I got out her happiness essential oil blend. When I first brought out her roller she said ‘Nope!’ Then within seconds, ‘OK put some on my wrists’.
First we talked… she wasnt opening up so we then worked through question after question of what she could write her speech on. It then came to me… the exact way to word it to her to help HER make this decision and be one she would be happy with! I said to her, ‘If you had to teach your class about anything what could you talk about’… Her face lit up. “DoTERRA! I can talk to them about my favourite oils”. I may have heard the angels singing… wow not only can you talk about this I can totally help you too! Such a little smartie pants she is, when she puts her mind to it!
We worked on her speech for a bit and then it was time for dinner to get started. Hubby arrived home and I was able to vent my own frustrations of the evening and then laugh at how incredible her decision was.
She was like a completely different person the rest of the evening. She was happy, laughing, joking, playing and loving! I was so impressed I even said to my hubby I seriously should have recorded the before and after for you to see. The powerful combination of filling her belly with something healthy, supporting her emotions with oils which are very comforting to her and just being with her.
The evening went so well, quite honestly much better than most, that even later at bedtime when it dawned on her that the permission form she earlier was melting down about because she ‘forgot it in her desk’, was actually in her lunch box… she laughed and said whoops haha ok I can get you to sign it with the note you gave me.
I stopped myself tonight and thought… if today had been a ‘normal’ day our evening would have been so very different. Rather than her being calm and happy at 530pm and having the entire evening to enjoy, the Emotional breakdown and needing support would have just been beginning.
Although the change in schedule slightly inconvenienced me at work, it put me exactly where I needed to be. Home with my kids to support them where needed. I am so grateful and thankful for that opportunity!
As I blogged about yesterday our family is making some significant positive changes within our life and today turned out being perfect! A great way to start the week fresh and new.
Tiffany Peterson is an inspirational speaker I truly respect and admire. Her words speak so loudly to me. Ironically she posted this earlier today. 💗
A friend and mentor always reminds… “Turn your mess into your message”. I completely could have given in to my own internal thermostat which was screaming ‘yes just be done then… omg I need to do this and that!’
But I held strong and persisted. Why? Because SHE is worth it. HE is worth it. Simply giving in and saying “OK fine you say your fine go play”… simply wouldn’t have solved a thing. To her, these things that were bothering and upsetting her were truly emotionally tearing her down and completely stressing her out. Children experience stress and emotional upset just like we do, but at different levels. Sometimes the best thing we can do is slow down, put the rest of the world completely on hold and just simply be there. To love, reassure of love, support and consistency and then to simply listen. Phew was it ever worth it! Emotional health is so complex and truly is a daily effort!
My heart is full 💓 and tomorrow is a brand new day to continue to empower and love these littles of ours. 💗 I am so incredibly grateful to be their mom and to have these wonderful tools to support every facet of our health and well being!