In my own personal development over the past couple years Ive worked hard to over come some of my own emotional blocks and limiting beliefs. Although some days, weeks and months are personally harder than others given the fact that life happens. One thing I have learned is that what we think, is what we become. What we put out there, comes back.
The other morning was a somewhat harsh reminder of this for me when I heard my daughter from across the room crumble into a ball on the floor crying and saying …
“I just can’t do this I just need a break from everything…”
I literally stopped what I was doing and began to tear up. How did she know what I was thinking? What she had just said was exactly what I was thinking to myself that very same morning while going through list over list in my head of what I still had to get done before the holidays.
Without a question, I went over to her and sat with her giving herself (and me) an encouraging and emotionally boosting pep talk. I reassured her that she is amazing and that mommy is also feeling the pressure and stress, especially with living through major renovations, on top of other emotional stress and factors, that most of all mommy and daddy are here for her and we will have downtime for her to have alone time and just the four of us over the holidays.
Together we then got out our Emotional Aromatherapy roller bottles – Cheer, Passion and Motivate and applied them. These are her “happiness oils”. To give myself a little more I applied Console and had it going in my diffuser that day in my office.
“In the middle of a difficulty lies opportunity.” ~Albert Einstein
Obviously there are others with more concerns, heart ache and challenges than we have. I am so thankful for our health, our home, our clothing, vehicle etc. We are incredibly blessed, as a friend reminded me that morning to remind my daughter of what we are blessed with and not focus so much on the challenges we are feeling emotionally and physically. It was a reminder I also needed to hear.
In talking with my daughter before she left for school I made sure she knew that being emotional is OK, as well as caring about others well-being, it means she has such a big heart but that it can also mean she can feel other peoples hurt as well – which is where I as her mom and her family will help her be the strong girl she is.
That evening, my daughter made a point of giving me a big hug and saying, “Thank you so much mommy for talking to me I had such a good day after”. I did more than just talk to her, I was honest with her – on a kid level. I told her mommy was feeling the stress and pressure too. I didn’t just say “its ok, everything will be ok”. I told her I could relate to how she was feeling, I validated her feelings. At her young age, this was very significant.
Children are like little sponges, they soak up everything around them – the good and unfortunately the bad too. They stress about things that aren’t “their’s” to stress about or worry about and so many “what if’s”.
A good reminder for us as parents, even when we think kids aren’t being negatively affected by outside stressors or major significant life changes (renovations in our case) they most likely are and just aren’t expressing their feelings for whatever reason.
I am so thankful for my daughter’s melt down that morning, it gave me the opportunity to re-focus on what IS important, what IS in my control and to give way to the universe to handle the rest.
One blend Ive been using since then is a blend of 20 drops of Balance and 20 drops Cypress topped off with fractionated coconut oil in a 10ml roller bottle. Balance is the Oil of Grounding and Cypress is the Oil of Motion & Flow. Balance teaches individuals to ground their energy and to manifest their vision with the patience of a tree. Balance assists an individual with stability, perseverance, being grounded and inner-strength. Cypress works in the heart and mind teaching the soul how to let go of the past by moving with the flow of life. Cypress has positive properties of flexibility, trust, flowing with life, adaptable and emotional growth.
I am so thankful that we have these oils in our home to provide healthy emotional and physical support when needed.
“Discouragement and failure are two of the surest stepping stones to success.” ~Dale Carnegie