One thing I have always known is that I wanted to meet the man of my dreams, someone who fit in our family just like he always belonged and who made me truly happy to raise children with!
It was a long rough road to becoming a mother, to us becoming parents. We have a lot of scars from that journey but those scars remind us that not only I, but we can over come anything we are faced with. That it was worth those scars to get to where we are today with the family we have always dreamed of having.
The other night while eating supper our daughter looked at me and said “mommy I love you, you are the best mommy ever” … my heart instantly melted. She then turned to my husband and both her and our son said at the same time “daddy you are the best daddy in the whole world” . They then both turned to me and said “mommy you are the best mommy and daddy is the best daddy!” . We are lucky – SO very lucky!
Its amazing how those tiny little people, with words we have heard them say many times can make us turn to mush and fill with even more love every single time we hear them say that.
One day while joking with the kids I told them how awesome mommy was, our daughter responds with “no you’re not” and our son follows that with, “but mommy you are special, you are very special and so is daddy……… but daddy is sooo special because he can make things and omgosh mom he can make cool things” . 😉 They don’t yet realize how “cool” mommy is that I grew them in my tummy haha!
Having our children has truly shaped the person, woman and mother I am today. I cannot speak for my husband but he has grown into his role of husband and father amazingly well and would do anything for these two little people.
Last night our son told us he was going to save his money and not waste it so that he could be responsible when he gets bigger like mommy and daddy! On Tuesday this week hubby dropped me off at Vmax after work then went and picked up the kids, then came back and got me. The kids were talking about how daddy had school that day and that when they are done school they are going to work at Granpa’s shop just like mommy and daddy, then Mady add’s in and if I am going to work with mommy I’ll have to go to vmax too 😉 I love that they see our work ethic and can understand that the things we have is from hard work.
When our son was born, my passion for photography blossomed, I think everyone knows that with the thousands of photos I take each year (and growing!). Not only does photography give me great enjoyment and pleasure, I am capturing my children’s lives. There is not a week that goes by that our children do not ask me to see photos or for me to capture them doing something – even the small things that to some wouldn’t seem significant. Or them going into my office and pulling out the photo albums off the shelf to look at when they were babies or when mommy and daddy got married. We always want family to be important to our children.
My goals in life relate to my family, focusing on my health and fitness is because I want to enjoy everyday with my children, husband, family having fun. I work hard to show my children that to have the things you want and enjoy in life it comes with hard work, much like their job is to go to school, mommy has a job too, taking care of things around the house is mommy and daddy’s responsibility but our kids share in that as well. I have learned patience, amazing amounts. I have learned to appreciate each and every moment no matter what it is, because whether good or bad, another day will come and life goes on. Ive learned I can function on little amounts of sleep and that when I hear the cry of my child nothing else matters. Ive learned to be fearless – my only true fear is something happening to my child, anything else – well hey Im a red headed mother, I am fearless to anyone/thing! Ive learned true unconditional love, that its ok to show my emotions and cry. We’ve learned that financial planning is a true factor to success and happiness! I love that my hubby loves this trait in me 😉 Ive learned that kids like things simple, an unbelievable amount of toys or going on trips all the time is not necessary for them to be happy and have fun. Ive also learned that the road of life will always have bumps, turns and hills to over come, everyday will not be perfect, but those days that are – are amazing. Obstacles are worth over coming and we are all always learning.
All of these points below of 15 Things A Child Can Teach An Adult from the purpose fairy, I have learned each and every one from our children.
Most of all, I love the person I have become as their mother and my husband has become as their father. There is nothing more important to me in my life than my family and spending time with family sharing a mutual love, respect and enjoyment of time together!
Because really, nothing else matters. Forget all the negative, all those people who are too wound up with gossip or are always competing with others to see who has this or that. Finally in our life, I can honestly say that I could care less what people would like to believe or how they choose to act. What they think is right or wrong or how they determine their own morals and ethics. My children have taught me what is truly important and should and will always be the main focus in my life.
Paulo Coelho said that “A child can teach an adult three things: to be happy for no reason, to always be busy with something, and to know how to demand with all his might that which he desires.”but I say that a child can teach an adult many other things and I wanted to share them with you today. After doing a lot of research, and time spent observing the little ones interact, I came up with a list of 15 things that a child can teach an adult.
One of the most powerful lessons we can learn from these beautiful little creatures is to be fearless, for you and I know that they fear nothing. Of course, there needs to be a balance here because they don’t fear putting their hand in mad dog’s mouth or a hot stove, and they don’t fear being themselves and saying whatever it’s on their mind, but that’s why adults are jump in to draw the line. To be more precise, I am talking about the many fears that we humans learn over the course of our lives, fears that are simple illusions like the fear of the unknown, fear of being judged, fear of rejection, fear of what the future might bring, etc.…
2. HOW To See Everybody As Being Special
Have you noticed the admiration they have in their eyes when they look at you and everybody around you? That sparkle… They see everybody through their innocent and beautiful eyes, and they see everybody as being special and unique and that’s exactly what we all are it’s just that our lenses are too dirty and we can no longer see reality as clearly as children do.
3. How To TRUST YOUR INNER KNOWING
If you ask me, we come to this world with all that we need already within us, and you can call this inner knowing, intuition, instincts, it doesn’t really matter, what really matters is for us to learn how to work with it knowing that, “all the learning in the world cannot replace instinct.”Robert Ley
4. How To Be Carefree
The moment we allow ourselves to let go of all our fears, all our doubts and regrets, the moment we allow ourselves to let go of all those things that no longer serve us, we will be able to go back to how we once were, and just like the Enigma goes, and I will paraphrase here, we will be able to return to ourselves, to return to innocence, for that’s exactly where our essence is, that’s exactly who we are and what we are.
5. How TO LIVE LIFE FULLY
Who does not want that? We spend most of our lives chasing happiness, searching for meaning and balance, affirming that we want to live our lives fully, not knowing where exactly to look for and what exactly to do in order to achieve just that. Well, this is your chance to learn how to do just that by simply observing a small and innocent child in action, and eventually helping you master this important lesson.
l want to be happy, you want to be happy, she /he wants to be happy… We all want to be happy, there is no doubt about it and deep down inside we both now it can be done. Based on how we were raised and based on our past conditioning, it may take more or less time, energy and work but if you are open and willing to move in that direction, in time you will be able to achieve just that.
7. HOW TO EXPRESS YOURself FREELY – IF YOU FEEL LIKE CRYING, CRY!
In his book, Hostage At The Table, George Kohlrieser actually talks about some research that was done, showing how women actually live longer lives compared to men because women are the ones who express their feeling more freely. Men, well, they are expected to be MEN!
I once heard this guy telling his child that he should stop crying because you see, crying is for girls. Funny. If you need to cry, just cry. Who cares what others might think? If that will help you feel better and if that’s what you feel like doing, just let it out and you will feel so much better afterwards. Don’t suppress your feelings. Remember that: “What soap is for the body, tears are for the soul.”Jewish Proverb
8. HOW TO LOVE UNCONDITIONALLY
Learn to give without expecting anything in return, for that is what real and unconditional love is all about, and that is what children can teach you. Think of the Sun that shines for us without expecting anything in return. It just offers itself to us, and when it does, we are all so happy. This quote from Hafez reflects this truth so beautifully: “Even after all this time the sun never says to the earth, “you owe me.” Look what happens with a love like that. It lights the whole sky.”
9. HOW To Give From The Heart
You know how children when they are very young they don’t actually identify themselves with what we think they are, and when talking about themselves they usually do so in 3rd person: Dana’s doll, Dana’s dress, etc. They don’t say my dress, my doll until parents teach them to do so. Before that happens, and before they start identifying things as being theirs, they give and they share from the heart, everything with everyone and later on, we teach them to keep “their stuff” for themselves.
This is a lesson we definitely need to learn from them, knowing that when: “One man gives freely, yet gains even more; another withholds unduly, but comes to poverty. ” Prov. 11:24
“Forgiveness is the answer to the child’s dream of a miracle by which what is broken is made whole again, what is soiled is made clean again.”Dag Hammarskjold
11. HOW To Always Speak Your Truth
Always speak your truth, say what’s on your mind, say what you feel and what you believe in because: “Those who mind don’t matter, and those who matter don’t mind.” Dr Seuss
12. HOW To Use More of Your Imagination/ Inspiration
The world has plenty of information but not enough inspiration. If you think about it, now with the technological revolution, we get access to so much information. No matter what you do, no matter who you are, no matter where you are, learn to use more of your imagination, because just like the great Albert Einstein said it: “Imagination is more important than knowledge. For knowledge is limited, whereas imagination embraces the entire world, stimulating progress, giving birth to evolution. It is, strictly speaking, a real factor in scientific research.”
Believe in yourself because if you don’t how can you expect others to do so? It all starts with YOU! The moment you start believing in yourself, everything will start to fall into places. “Because one believes in oneself, one doesn’t try to convince others. Because one is content with oneself, one doesn’t need others’ approval. Because one accepts oneself, the whole world accepts him or her.”Lao Tzu
14. HOW TO DREAM BIG AND Aim For The SKY
“Don’t limit yourself. Many people limit themselves to what they think they can do. You can go as far as your mind lets you. What you believe, remember, you can achieve.” Mary Kay Ash
Why worry about tomorrow when tomorrow is not here yet? You are here, now, in this moment. Just open your eyes and really see what happens to you and all around you. Notice the beauty that you are and notice how far you have come. No matter what your past looks like and no matter how scary the future may seem, if you chose to stop worrying and really focus on what is, you will realize that your worries were in vain. “When I look back on all these worries, I remember the story of the old man who said on his deathbed that he had had a lot of trouble in his life, most of which had never happened.” Winston Churchill