In a way it doesn’t feel like its been “so” long and yet in another way it feels like its been forever that we’ve know each other. I remember the weekend we met like it did happen yesterday, I never would have thought going to see my cousins car race in Conneticuit would end up being the place I would meet my husband to be. The girls and I joked about who could pick up or get some free drinks. Given I had just gotten out of a crap relationship a few months prior I certainly was not looking, but fate was on my side and had different plans for me 😉
We have had our share of stresses since becoming a couple, many of which not many would survive. In our time together, actually up until our son was born we went through every stress imaginable including illness, death, marriage, home ownership, infertility, running a business, family issues… and the list could go on.
Going through our infertility battles took a true hit on us, especially on me which affected us, my husband did not know how to fix it or make it better. However no matter any crap we may have went through we always said I love you, and always kept reaching for our dreams – together.
In 11 years so much has changed, we have grown as individuals, as a couple and as parents. On November 30th of last year I had a surgery which we had been putting off for a while, knowing that it would be my next option for my own comfort and quality of life but also putting my husband and children first. After 11 years of dealing with ongoing pain, then my own body fighting against a dream of mine, for years I have felt broken. After having this surgery, it has not “fixed” me but its finally given me the opportunity to feel better, for my quality of life to improve and most of all my life with my husband and children.
Finally having relief from the pain and discomfort I had been dealing with for more than 11 years, I was given back a part of my life. The most importamt part of my life, the quality time with my family. The opportunity to reconnect with my husband on a very deep level during my healing and strengthen our love, the love we have shared for 11 years but since having kids and health issues had become mundane. Being in pain everyday made it very hard for me to function with the day to day and stressors.
Our 11 year anniversary will always be special. I know I will never live entirely pain free, however I have been able to get my life back. The biggest thing I have learned this year is to stop putting myself and my needs aside, to be proud of myself and not let anyone bring me down, most of all that with love and hard work… its amazing what you can accomplish!
I love my husband and the life we have created together and everyday appreciate our time and look forward to our future to one day grow old together… lol unless you ask our kids and according to them we already are 😉
Here’s to many more years together and many more anniversary celebrations of the dah we met and our wedding anniversary. Love you baby!