Good guy, bad guy

Today at lunch I read my  horoscope which in a nutshell stated “…not to dismiss an old way of thinking just because there were new ways of doing things.” While sitting outside on my deck and eating my lunch in the sunshine I let my mind wander…I thought and I wrote and after I wrote, as I do many of my blog posts I emailed it to my hubby whose response was “did you write that?”,  “awesome that is so true!” … so here it is! Enjoy 😉

We’ve all been there, have all met someone in our life who complains and is negative about almost everything. They are so sweet and nice on the outside (and to your face) which hooks you into friendship with them… And then slowly but surely they trap you, the life that this person is no where near happy with, their negativity begins to rub off on you. Suddenly everything you once were so happy and blessed to have, you find all and anything to complain about. Nothing is ever right, you aren’t doing what you should be, you need this or that and before you know it, this negative thinking has taken over your entire life.

Little did you know this person and their (secret) unhappiness could cause such dismay and unhappiness in your life. Especially when they portray a happy go lucky personality.

Time goes on and you don’t want to be the bad guy. You know this is desperately affecting your life yet you just can’t end the friendship. Even though your life is being so negatively affected, their unhappiness has leaked into you and made you question everything, including worrying if you would be the bad guy if you stood up and said you’ve had enough, you don’t know how to say good bye without hurt, even though its hurting you more. This hurt you know is not only hurting you (and everything about you), you worry it could hurt them… but then reality begins to take over. Reality that you have been fighting with for so long wanting YOUR life back. Reality that makes you realize this “friend” doesn’t have the ability to care about anyone but themself. A person who you allowed to take over your own integrity and alter your good qualities to bad.

One day a light goes off, almost as if on cue. This person who you had thought of as a friend, in the end caused negativity beyond words, there is finally an end. An end that you had been hoping for, for such a long time! An end that you wished you had the foresight to see when you originally opened yourself up to their friendship. An end that you knew if it didn’t happen would completely ruin you. An end that you look back on and realize, was the worst person you ever met.

Yes negativity is evil and these evil people feed on those who are happy!

Published by Your Life As Art Essentials - Pamela Zmija

My name is Pam, I am a nature and lifestyle photographer, biz woman, number cruncher, oil lover, healer and most important, a mom and wife. I inspire and educate mom’s and their families to become the true architect of their life to learn real, simple and affordable ways of positive change in their lifestyle to be healthier and happier… naturally by being empowered and educated in their own homes! I am creative and conscious about the value of a dollar and am driven by goals and dreams! #oilyphotographer #doTERRA #EssentialOils #YourLifeAsArtEssentials #PCOS #MentalHealth #ADHD #ouroilylife

2 thoughts on “Good guy, bad guy

  1. I totally agree; I’ve got several friends that complain about the silliest things. There are so many more serious issues – especially throughout the world – that are worth investing energy in:)) Great post and I look forward to sharing more with you:))

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